Resources for Couples
The Understood eLearning course can help you stop fighting and create connection!
Conflict doesn’t have to be an inevitable cycle. You can learn to talk to each other in a way that enhances your relationship with closeness and a sense of belonging.
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Diane Polle Heller
Diane Polle Heller
Diane Polle Heller
“We are fundamentally designed to heal,” teaches Dr. Heller. “Even if our childhood is less than ideal, our secure attachment system is biologically programmed in us, and our job is to simply find out what’s interfering with it―and learn what we can do to make those secure tendencies more dominant.”
Stan Tatkin
Diane Polle Heller
Diane Polle Heller
Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. The book includes guidance on how to manage disagreements and establish healthy conflict ground rules.
Annie Chen
Diane Polle Heller
Annie Chen
Attachment theory explores the different ways we develop connections with others. If you're searching for a way to create stronger, healthier, and more authentic relationships with the people you love, The Attachment Theory Workbook can help. It's your guide to understanding your own attachment style and tips to improve honesty, intimacy, and communication with your partner.
Taha Zaid
Diane Polle Heller
Annie Chen
Whether we’re aware of it or not, the things that we go through and experience shape the way we socialize and form relationships.
Start taking control of your relationships and begin fostering healthy attachment styles so you’ll be more fulfilled with your relationships!
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Taha Zaid
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Do you find yourself worrying that your partner will leave you or cheat on you? Do fears that you are unworthy make you fixate on the idea that you aren’t good enough for strong relationships. Do you find yourself getting angry at your partner when anxious feelings creep in? Do you want to feel safer in your relationships? If the answer t
Do you find yourself worrying that your partner will leave you or cheat on you? Do fears that you are unworthy make you fixate on the idea that you aren’t good enough for strong relationships. Do you find yourself getting angry at your partner when anxious feelings creep in? Do you want to feel safer in your relationships? If the answer to any of these questions are yes, you may have an anxious attachment style that causes you to feel a great deal of anxiety over normal relationship activities and behaviors.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Marshall B. Rosenberg
What is Violent Communication? If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, bein
What is Violent Communication? If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication".
Allan Fruzzetti
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Allan Fruzzetti
The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights.
Gary Chapman
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Allan Fruzzetti
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! In The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.